What is "feminine" anyway?

I feel feminine, I say, but what do I mean by that?  It turns out to be a slippery question.

I was raised by first-wave feminists as a sensitive new-age male, so except when I'm shooting pool in a biker bar, I already have societal permission to display many stereotypically feminine traits.  I have always been emotional, empathetic, gentle, nurturing.

So what's different post-revelation?  Turns out, often, not a lot.  After all, how much of daily life is intensely gender-specific?  Not grocery shopping; not my job; not even parenting, most of the time.

Still, it doesn't matter where I am or what I'm doing--when I'm not dressed I want to be.  OK, that's new:  "Wanting to feel pretty" was not included on the sensitive new-age male list.

But feel pretty why?  Just for my own satisfaction?  Or for "pretty" should we substitute "attractive"?  I know from personal experience that even women who like sensitive guys still seem to appreciate being pursued, and it turns out I've always secretly coveted the "pursued" role myself.  I have always been sexually/romantically passive and receptive, rather than aggressive, and despite the uneasy stirring of my good feminist training, that feels feminine to me.

OK, there's way more to this question than this, but another arguably feminine trait I feel strongly is the collaborative impulse...so what do you think?  Care to post a comment?  :-)